The Comparison Game

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Good morning!

Fighting the comparison game.  I believe it is one of the hardest battles we fight every single day.  And it is so easy with social media at our fingertips to look across the screen and see someone else living the life we wished we were living.

The thing is though…God gave us this one.  He gave us this life, this assignment, these children, this spouse, this home, etc., specifically at this time.  Now that being said, he also gave us the freedom of choice.  And those choices have influenced where we are on our journey.  But, are we looking to the Father to lead us down our path, the one He has for us?  Or are we looking across the screen and wanting to follow the ways of what we see?

I have learned over the years that comparing our lives with others only leads to disappointment, doubt, and feeling like we are failing when actually we aren’t!  Here are  a few things I have found that helps fight against the comparison game:

  1. Limit your screen time.  It is great to scroll through our news feed, see pictures of what friends and family are up to, but keep it at that.  It is information to view and process, not receive and input.
  2. Be present in your own life!  I get that some days are long and sometimes you just want to check out for a few minutes.  But being present where we are and in our current assignment is huge.
  3. Know where God has you.  It is so important to be in constant communication with the Father and know where He has you and why.  When we look up to Him instead of out at everyone else we have peace with where we are because we know it comes from Him.  It is when we begin to look out around us instead of up that we become discontent or agitated in our assignment.
  4. Stay in the Word.  When we grow in our relationship with the Father we see ourselves in a whole new way.  When we know who we are through His eyes there is no longer any need to be discontent.  He loves us perfectly and wholly exactly where we are, not because of what we are doing.  When we stay in constant communication with him, He will lead the way.

So, let’s live fully!  Fully right where we are, not where someone else is, and trust Him with the process.  Our journey is going to be uniquely designed by the One true author.  And most likely it isn’t going to look exactly like anyone else’s…and that’s what makes it special.

Blessings,

The Johnstons

 

Rest Assured

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Good morning!

All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.  Psalm 139:16

It is so easy to become anxious on our journey… to want so badly to run ahead of where we are.  We want to

  • Run further from our pain
  • Run into a better job or promotion
  • Run towards children that sleep all night
  • Run to a time different from now

But from our experience God is never early, but he hasn’t ever been late either.  He uses each day, each experience to grow us closer into who He made us to be.

Let’s let go of the things we can’t control and trust Him with our days.  We can walk confidently in our path when we trust the One we know is paving the way.

Blessings!

The Johnston’s

 

You Are Loved

We love because he first loved us.  1 John 4:19

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Happy Valentine’s Morning!

This day can be extremely special for some but it can also be extremely hard for others.  But instead of focusing on the love of our earthly relationships, the love we share with others, I want to focus on the One who first loved us…

We can only love others to the best of our understanding of what love is.  The scriptures tell us that;

Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 (NIV)

Very familiar verses…however if we truly understood them and put them into practice this world would be a different place.  But my favorite part of this familiar passage is the part that comes next –

Love never dies.  Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit.  We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete.  But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled.  1 Corinthians 8-10 (MSG) 

When Love arrives…we will be complete.  Only Jesus can complete us.  His love is incomprehensible… a love so deep we couldn’t even begin to understand it.  His love for us never fails.  Jesus loves us like no one else can and that in itself is worthy of our praise today.

So! Let’s feel as loved today as we truly are, right where we are, exactly how we are.

Blessings,

The Johnston’s

A Time of Reflection

Good afternoon!

I wrote this post a year ago…and this Colorado morning feels much like that morning did.  Cold, foggy, snow covering most everything still and I remember sitting by the window, coffee in hand, reflecting.  This was such a good reminder for me…that slow progress is lasting progress and all progress is worthy of praise.

Hope this blesses you today as much as it did us,

The Johnston’s

Brrrrr it is cold  here with beautiful frost all over the trees, the flowing brown ornamental grass, the fences and even the horses.  It gets thicker and thicker as the morning goes on.  It is a piece of art that continues to progress… little at a time.  If I sit here and stare at it continually, it doesn’t seem to change.  But when I leave the window for a while; fill up my coffee cup, make a magnet tower with the boys, have a great visit with my mom, and come back I can see the changes.  The frost is thicker, more defined, more prominent.

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The frost and the progress of the masterpiece outside my window feels like my soul journey lately… slow and quiet, but ever evolving.  We live in a culture of fast, hectic, and busy.  Crazy busy.  And that brings a sense of wanting instantaneous satisfaction.  We want everything now:  Success now.  Thousands of followers on social media now.  A home that is organized and clean and full now.  A bank account that is overflowing now.  Children that will self-entertain now.  But as I watch out my window this morning God reminds me that the precious things, the things that matter, take time.  They are a work of art that continues to progress little by little.

Jesus told the disciples in Mark chapter 6 to “Come away by yourselves to a secluded place and rest a little while” .  At this time there were many people who were coming and going and it was a time of what we would call crazy busy.  Sometimes we have to press the pause button and “come away and rest for a little while”.  When life gets crazy and all-consuming it is good to take some time.  Day in and day out can feel like a struggle sometimes, like we aren’t going anywhere but in a circle.  But as I sit this morning watching the frost grow thicker and thicker on those bushes I pause, rest, reflect.  And I can see the progress… little bits over time.

Maybe you need to pause, rest, find a secluded place, and reflect on where you  are and how far you have progressed.  I found so much comfort this morning in my time of reflection and I praise Him for the progress.  Instead of feeling anxious, stuck and frustrated, I am grateful that I have paused long enough to recognize the growth and to thank Him for exactly where I am on this journey.

Blessings,

Tana

 

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