Fighting the comparison game. I believe it is one of the hardest battles we fight every single day. And it is so easy with social media at our fingertips to look across the screen and see someone else living the life we wished we were living.
The thing is though…God gave us this one. He gave us this life, this assignment, these children, this spouse, this home, etc., specifically at this time. Now that being said, he also gave us the freedom of choice. And those choices have influenced where we are on our journey. But, are we looking to the Father to lead us down our path, the one He has for us? Or are we looking across the screen and wanting to follow the ways of what we see?
I have learned over the years that comparing our lives with others only leads to disappointment, doubt, and feeling like we are failing when actually we aren’t! Here are a few things I have found that helps fight against the comparison game:
- Limit your screen time. It is great to scroll through our news feed, see pictures of what friends and family are up to, but keep it at that. It is information to view and process, not receive and input.
- Be present in your own life! I get that some days are long and sometimes you just want to check out for a few minutes. But being present where we are and in our current assignment is huge.
- Know where God has you. It is so important to be in constant communication with the Father and know where He has you and why. When we look up to Him instead of out at everyone else we have peace with where we are because we know it comes from Him. It is when we begin to look out around us instead of up that we become discontent or agitated in our assignment.
- Stay in the Word. When we grow in our relationship with the Father we see ourselves in a whole new way. When we know who we are through His eyes there is no longer any need to be discontent. He loves us perfectly and wholly exactly where we are, not because of what we are doing. When we stay in constant communication with him, He will lead the way.
So, let’s live fully! Fully right where we are, not where someone else is, and trust Him with the process. Our journey is going to be uniquely designed by the One true author. And most likely it isn’t going to look exactly like anyone else’s…and that’s what makes it special.